Why do we choose the partners that we do when we  are first deciding/calcualting wether to pursue soemone?

For me..its about looks and the 'bad boy' syndrome, a recipe for disaster...mmm yes I know. And funnily enough Im not shallow.

But I am slowly changing . A person whom I loved deeply is one of these bad boy types..incredibly good looking in a manly way/works hard/plays hard kind of way( black hair green eyes)..Is mostly faithful (I think)..

He is used to the attention of women and quite enjoys it..gggrrr.


Are men attracted to "femme fatales", I guess the female version of the man I described above or is it something else entirely?

Is it about youth and beauty, perky boobs, brain function not being important or running a close 4th to last..or is it more about inteligence emotional and otherwise?


Or is  it the whole package , the perhaps, unnattainable on all levels.


Maybe it depends on if we are choosing a life partner or someone for now..a bit of fun.

For me it is the compatibility and that they are their own person, won't use me and is positive.

Prob depends on my own confidance whom I look at.

well now you are getting married I assume youve found the right person..

So..yeah, your very lucky Sprint. :)

In a way our choices are selfish. I would not be interested in a total loser. Who would ?
It is what they have to give.


Us Irish are renown for our luck. "Better to be born lucky than rich."

Quote:

Maybe it depends on if we are choosing a life partner

Thats the intention!

Well I didnt really expect to get many bites on this one..

Maybe if I say something controversial.


What would be controversial;..hints?

Im interested. C'mon oceans its not hard to say something controversial.

Ausnat wrote on Jun 11^th, 2007 at 9:22pm:

Im interested. C'mon oceans its not hard to say something controversial.

No Aussie...it might not go down too well..so Ill leave it up to you..nite ;)

Cool then, i keep my job. 8-)

Who says we choose/assess/pursue? Maybe we just meet, engage, fall in love and marry.

You may be completely correct connie :)

I think that is how it has been for me - I guess maybe you can recognise patterns that have occurred though.

For me the man has to have some creative activity in his life, be intelligent, be loving, and not be afraid of thinking outside the box. Some interest in politics, astrology, psychology or some such field is also good.  I don't know why, that is just how it is. Also an ability with maths and a fondness for music.

I think that those things are that way though because i am the way i am. For someone else they would very likely be different things.

One of the most offputting characteristics of a man though is being judgemental and being fake or on himself , don't you agree?

I'ld pretty much agree connie. For me they HAVE to be a music lover.

Met many women who were overly "calculating."

wrote on Jun 14^th, 2007 at 7:40pm:

I think that is how it has been for me - I guess maybe you can recognise patterns that have occurred though. For me the man has to have some creative activity in his life, be intelligent, be loving, and not be afraid of thinking outside the box. Some interest in politics, astrology, psychology or some such field is also good.  I don't know why, that is just how it is. Also an ability with maths and a fondness for music. I think that those things are that way though because i am the way i am. For someone else they would very likely be different things. One of the most offputting characteristics of a man though is being judgemental and being fake or on himself , don't you agree?

I like the way you think connie and i do agree..he has to be himself and Oh..a biggie for me?.. a sense of humour. Because I love humour.

Welcome to the forum connie..you post well :)

thought of that just when I hit "post", they have to laugh a lot.

Sprintcyclist wrote on Jun 14^th, 2007 at 8:57pm:

thought of that just when I hit "post", they have to laugh a lot.

Your gf is lucky Sprint..I think you are funny. ;)

thanks darls

oceanz wrote on Jun 14^th, 2007 at 8:35pm:

wrote on Jun 14th, 2007 at 7:40pm: I think that is how it has been for me - I guess maybe you can recognise patterns that have occurred though. For me the man has to have some creative activity in his life, be intelligent, be loving, and not be afraid of thinking outside the box. Some interest in politics, astrology, psychology or some such field is also good.  I don't know why, that is just how it is. Also an ability with maths and a fondness for music. I think that those things are that way though because i am the way i am. For someone else they would very likely be different things. One of the most offputting characteristics of a man though is being judgemental and being fake or on himself , don't you agree? I like the way you think connie and i do agree..he has to be himself and Oh..a biggie for me?.. a sense of humour. Because I love humour. Welcome to the forum connie..you post well :)

Thankyou.

Sprintcyclist wrote on Jun 14^th, 2007 at 9:23pm:

thanks darls

and you too darls ;D

wrote on Jun 14^th, 2007 at 9:43pm:

oceanz wrote on Jun 14th, 2007 at 8:35pm: wrote on Jun 14th, 2007 at 7:40pm: I think that is how it has been for me - I guess maybe you can recognise patterns that have occurred though. For me the man has to have some creative activity in his life, be intelligent, be loving, and not be afraid of thinking outside the box. Some interest in politics, astrology, psychology or some such field is also good.  I don't know why, that is just how it is. Also an ability with maths and a fondness for music. I think that those things are that way though because i am the way i am. For someone else they would very likely be different things. One of the most offputting characteristics of a man though is being judgemental and being fake or on himself , don't you agree? I like the way you think connie and i do agree..he has to be himself and Oh..a biggie for me?.. a sense of humour. Because I love humour. Welcome to the forum connie..you post well :) Thankyou.

your welcome connie..

Here i am!

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do you really look like that? :-?

Please tell me why you are peed off. Because I disagree with you sometimes?

ausnat - i wondered. for some reason, that looks like a familiar person ??

;) ;)

so, now we have all said the selfish side to choosing. ie what we want.

What will/can we give ?

I look similar. just alot younger.  my family actually comes from the same region.

we can give hope and chocolate and trust... :)

And a smile. :)

and lots of physical contact ......

mmmm smile  :) mmm physical contact...mmmm :-?

wondered if that one would rattle your cage oceans.    :)

Yes, and a good hard ROOT. ;D

Ausnat wrote on Jun 15^th, 2007 at 3:01pm:

Yes, and a good hard ROOT. ;D

yes guys cage rattlled..and Nat your going right over my hot knee..now ive got to study..be quiet plaese. ;)

catch you all tonight.