MW wrote on Jun 28
th, 2008 at 7:56pm:
Milak...
WAS accepted in Christian and Jewish religion… was not meaning is…
I am not asking about other religions, I am asking about Islam.
Note the word CONSUMATION...
he married her when she was just 9 years old, and the article you claim is the be all and end all of this argument is just one of the possible scenario's in a debate that has no conclusion.
However, documentation saying he married her at age 9 has been more consistent. Needless to say, if she had of said no to his advances (even at that age) he could divorce her. Saying he didn't consummate the marriage only suggests an attempt at excusing a man marrying a little girl. p.s. Having said that my question was about marrying her in the first place, not whether they copulated. I asked about marriage, not consummation.
Quoting from one forum doesn't render your argument valid; there cannot be irrefutable conclusions as to someone’s age at the time they lost their virginity when it happened around 2000 years ago; even within the field of anthropology.
Well even the age of marriage is not to be proven. There are hadith that claim she was married to him at 6 and consummated the marriage at 9, others state she was older. I don't trust those hadith because in my personal opinion and many others they were tampered with by the Umayyad's.
Judging by the evidence that's available from corresponding dates of the events that took place around them and the ages of other people, it leads me to believe the consummation didn't take place until the ages of 15-20, I would not be surprised if she had been engaged to him earlier, but she didn't move into his house until then. Thus their marriage hadn't really taken place until that age. What tends to happen at the 'engagement' is they sign the wedding papers. That is not uncommon at all, but the wedding doesn't take place for some time, depending on their preferences. Certainly not before the girl has started menstruating. That ceremony is called Katib Kitab.
It's not uncommon today for people in Yemen to get married as early as 10-12 years old. But that doesn't mean they have sex with their wives or husbands, it just means that is the time when they really get to know each other, it's sort of an apprenticeship that they go through to know how to act in marriage. This has been documented by many anthropologists, see Yemen Chronicle: Anthropology of War and Mediation by Steven C. Caton, it mentions it in there.
So it all goes by what you consider the beginning of marriage to be? I'd suggest not to go by what the Western standards are because they weren't from the West.