Soren wrote on Jun 10
th, 2012 at 1:44pm:
1. If someone says something stupid and you say, "Hey, that is stupid BS because ... xyz' - is that abuse?
No. As far as I'm concerned, that is perfectly acceptable according to the forum rules. You can call ideas stupid and explain why. Everybody has their stupid moments, but sometimes people whom we regard as stupid can occasionally understand something that others can't. I'll call it the Forrest Gump effect.
Quote:2. If someone says stupid things because he/she is stupid (ie says says stupid things as a matter of personal policy and outlook), and you say to him: 'you speak like that because you are stupid" - is that abuse?
Yes, but it's very mild, and (my personal stance) I wouldn't necessarily take any action on it. It's better to call ideas stupid, because (ahem) it's stupid to attack the person when you really should be attacking the idea.
Quote:It seems to me to be a result of the feminisation of education and then social interaction and discourse. Everyone now must beat around the bush like girls. No spade is vre called a spade because direct, frank language is seen s too masculine (ie aggressive).. What's happening?
I'm all for calling a spade a spade. Explain why an idea is stupid and you'll be streets ahead. If somebody has obviously not even bothered to research a subject properly before making an inane superficial utterance, such lack of personal diligence should be corrected.
Quote:I don't just mean on this forum but in the broader context. Some people should not be sheltered from the fact that they are idiots. As long as you tell them what was stupid and why in what they said or did, this should be seen as a valuable civic, manly virtue, not as abuse, not as bitching.
I have been called all sorts of things on this forum but I have never whined to the Mods. Why is it that only idiots whine to the mods? I am interested in the psychology of the whining idiots.
It goes deeper than that. I'm all for positive reinforcement, but there are times when we need to be totally frank about mediocrity and other matters.
For example: young people who think they are incredibly talented musicians (or dancers) . They may waste years of their lives thinking that they are actually quite good unless somebody tells them that they are totally crap. It's doing them a great service to tell them the truth, but it doesn't hurt to be a little bit subtle about it.
I've told you many times that your ideas on climate change were stupid, but I don't think you're stupid as such. .