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The dear souls with healthy boundaries Beautiful Bright Hearts are strong yet flexible. They are able to easily give to others and be accepting while at the same time respect their own feelings, their own needs, views, rights, and the same of those of others and at the same time they are definitely clear on their individualness and separateness. They understand and accept they are responsible for their own happiness and permit other dear souls to be responsible for their own. The dear souls that have healthy boundaries are positive, assertive and respectful of the rights of others and of their own need to be assertive. These dear souls understand empathy and demonstrate empathy towards others and are accepting of their own mistakes and won’t go out of their way to damage their self-esteem or confidence – they have a good idea of who they are, they are in touch with their authentic true self and are comfortable with themselves and from their own self-comfort they are able to make others feel comfortable as well. At first when you are learning to set new boundaries or to reset the ones you have be prepared for a bit of discomfort at first. You may be visited by anxiety, hidden fears or any other conditioned habit that you may have been unaware of. Remember dear ones your progress into better developing your Self, including your boundaries is not perfect, it is a work in progress. You get more done each day, you try a bit more each time and before you know it, your steps become easier. Don’t give up on yourself. When are establishing new boundaries or reevaluating the ones you are already have, ensure you are doing this without anger being expressed, there is no need to justify the boundary you are setting. If you are uncomfortable with how something is progressing, you have the right to change how it is going calmly, firmly, assertively and respectfully. Try to understand dear ones, that you cannot establish a boundary and take care of the other person’s feelings at the same time. This is your boundary. How they react to your boundary is not your responsibility. We want you want to create friendships, connections with people that respect and appreciate you and your boundaries. It is quite common at first Beautiful Bright Hearts to feel that you are being selfish, possibly guilty or even embarrassed when you establish a boundary. Even if you feel one or more of these things, still set up your boundary. Tell yourself that you have every right to take care of yourself. Understand that setting and implementing boundaries will take time, practice and willing determination. Don’t allow feelings of anxiety or low confidence to keep you from taking care of yourself or from giving yourself the self-love you deserve. Listen to your own emotions and to your own responses. If at any time Beautiful Bright Hearts, you find yourself complaining, angry or feeling resentment towards another dear soul, then that is your Inner Self trying to get you to establish some kind of boundary. From the indications you get from your Inner Self, you will quickly know what it is you need to do or say. Learn to listen to your Inner Self or intuition more often. Once you have determined your needs, then effectively communicate your boundary, without guilt, without embarrassment but with assertiveness. When you come from a confident place, you are able to set clear and healthy boundaries with others and there will be less of a need for those walls you like to create. Of course even with your boundaries in place there will be times when those invisible lines will be tested. We encourage you to be strong and firm. Keep in mind Beautiful Bright Hearts that your own behaviour must be exactly the same as the boundaries you are establishing. You cannot set a clear boundary successfully, if you are sending mixed, confusing messages. Don’t apologize for establishing your boundary; be clear, be firm and be respectful. The majority of people will have no problem respecting your boundaries but there will be some that will not. Don’t back down. Be strong with the boundaries you have set. Create walls only when solutions or resolutions cannot be made, or when relationships come to an end. There are some dear souls out there that clearly do not respect other people’s boundaries and authorities have to be called. There is no harm or shame when you need help from others even if the help is for your own safety. You deserve your own kindness, love and respect. Setting up your boundaries will not happen overnight; they will take time. Understand this is a learning process. When you are ready to establish or reestablish your boundaries, then you will. This is growing time set in your own time frame, not when someone else tells you. You might find you need to establish a new network of friends that will be supportive and appreciative of your needs and wants – it is okay to eliminate those toxic people from your life because they are poison to the beautiful becoming of you. There is so much good in store for each of you. I love you tremendously and I wish for each Beautiful Child of God to have set healthy boundaries, that they remain true to their authentic self and allow themselves to emerge into love-filled expressions that are happy and excited to be on their journey. When your Solar Plexus Chakra is healthy so will be your boundaries.
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