Well, thanks to those who had some input here.
Having read other threads I think I have the answer now...
No one really knows why.
I noted this quite early on after coming here and thought "early days see how it goes...."
Quite clearly, there is no insight into why we would have rules - therefore, that goes a long way to explain why there is a distinct lack of succinct clarity in those rules that are articulated in numerous places throughout the several boards. That goes a long way to explain why there are quite clear black and white rules (amongst the pile...) which are, at best, adhered to, enforced and upheld in grey (as opposed to the rule being stated as black and white).
It also clarifies now for me, why moderation is reactive and not proactive - lack of insight, understanding and commitment.
Am I being harsh?
No, not at all, if you want to have no rules and act arbitrarily with select posts and posters then be honest about it. Or review and simplify your rules at least so that they can be implemented with consistency, oh, and just prior to that seek some advice as to why groups of people doing anything need some rules - answer that first it might help your review of existing rules.
Sandpit to CesspitThat is the journey presently being embarked on.
That has long been the problem at the other place (yes I am also a former member/survivor) it hit cesspit years ago and has never recovered.
It is easily avoided, however, that would require admin/owner having the will to avoid it - no one else can redirect the forum.
Does it matter anyway?At the end of the day, most likely not (sorry to those people who feel some ownership/belonging here for the potential insult in that comment). It is just another little internet community amongst a Gazillion other little internet communities. So at the end of the day, just walking away is always a valid option.
The important message in that though for the Admin (I guess that is the term...) is that this means your relevance is also diminished, why? Well simply put, sensible posters who know their stuff (if there are any here) realise that the Mods are an unnecessary step is something is really wrong/illegal/defamatory/etc...
External bodies are far more appropriate, well if your complaint/query is valid at least. That would be a good litmus test I suppose, however, it would also mean that you don't run the risk of disturbing the sleep/dinner/drinking time or otherwise private life of a volunteer moderator. Particularly one who will (or won't possibly) respond to the PM that is the preferred method of moderating... (i.e. reactive).
A couple of other observationsTo anyone who has the absolute stupidity to make a comment in a public forum along the lines of "why are you responding it is none of your business...."
That's a great shutdown I suppose, except, your private conversation you are conducting in a public space.
To me, that means that your comment is driven by a lack of reason and logic and, in fact, the person who apparently knows nothing has stumped you (who knows everything it seems) for a reasoned response. OR you are having a private conversation in a public forum.... Either way, super dumb comment to make in a public forum.
"Baiting" - the least acted on issue in the place.
Baiting seems almost part and parcel with un-moderated online argument...Perhaps that is because people lack a valid argument in response, or logic has trumped their beliefs (that one always smarts), or perhaps they lack the skill to articulate their counterpoint and so, get lazy.
Either way, just a behavioural heads up - if you want to reduce it, do not give multiple warnings (that just makes the warner look dumb, weak and insipid) and then attack with a scatter gun - nip it in the bud early, consistently and with even handed application. What did we just have "several" people apparently suspended? Why? Because apparently no one could see this coming and, therefore, sat on collective hands.
So....What kind of forum do you want?That is the other question you guys might want to consider, although the board owner has been around long enough, perhaps he is already answering that very question.... With actions (or inactions) rather than words.
TBH, I just wanted to check out the marquee function, but seriously, a few rules relating to behaviour not content and the job is done...