I've wracked my brain trying to figure out how the phobia started Emma ... to no avail.

I can't remember any significant event that could have predisposed me. I just remember always being really scared of big spiders.

It plays into my signature well too. My daughter is afraid of spiders but unlike me she is scared of the little ones too. Still, if there's a big spider in the house, she deals with it.

Such a tragic figure in the presence of a huntsbastard do i cut, my daughter has determined to never be like me and is able to galvanise herself to the challenge.

I have been a "horrible warning" with great success.

rhino wrote on May 18^th, 2015 at 12:30am:


Some women do...not all.

We're all different. That's what makes us the same.

"I've wracked my brain trying to figure out how the phobia started Emma ... to no avail."

I could never figure out my phobia either but after a moth flew across my inside windscreen while I was driving, I considered myself pretty damned lucky that it was on a quiet street where I could pull over and get the hell out of the car.  Had I been in heavy traffic the outcome could have been worse and I was worried it could happen again.

SO......I started a desensitization treatment program.......the psychologist requested I ask my parents if they could shed any light on how/when it originated. Mum remembered that when I was a few weeks old lying in my bassinet, she heard seriously distressed crying and found a moth tangled and fluttering in the crib netting. As I grew up, Mum and Dad both remembered several instances where the phobia became apparent. It was a matter of remove me, kill the moth and wrap it in newspaper so I could "see" that it was gone.

As I've already said, my desensitization program was not a resounding success........the formidable obstacle of actually touching a moth picture was too much for me........so be it....

so you actually don't go anywhere high yourself? Other than planes?  I mean you refer to seeing other people near edges of buildings.. but no reference to yourself. I used to dream about earthquakes..  coming from the Shaky Isles I have memories of some big shakes.  The earth would open in giant cracks that I had to jump over to get home.!! Scary.

Scarier..? Actually being stuck in a lift which was going up.. stopped  slid down a few floors and stopped. Jerked and stopped.   EEK!!   After quite  long wait  we had to climb out between floors. NOW THAT IS SCARY.!

Emma wrote on May 19^th, 2015 at 12:02am:

I do Emma- 4 stories up is enough- just recently had a holiday with my partner and we were on the 4th floor of an appt building- I coudn't venture out onto the balcony- just felt weak and just generally fearful so didnt go out at all. No more balconies feature in my holidays/

omg that lift experience would have scared the life out of me..and i have never seen earthquakes ever- but i imagine that would terrifying.. did they leave you with any phobias

Yes I can strangely enough and it might just as you said- I have contact with the earth- it is mainly tall building and steep cliffs and watching a  video of anyone traversing a very perilous steep track in the mountains- not so much watching base jumping and I love watching those videos- yes like I said very steep sheer drops on in the  mountain's
Dean Potter died recently a  famous base jumper- ( he seemed like a lovely guy too) a base jump that went wrong. Very sad. But thems the risks you take- maybe a death wish mixed in there somewhere.

I think being subject to a serious earth quake would mess with me quite seriously- but your used to them now- and now I might be freaked out by lifts too lol.

Funny you should mention the contact with  the earth thing- I never considered it that way before.

It seem's the disappearance of your phobia re- earthquakes stopped when you left earthquakes behind..mmm

so what we have is a very important issue for all women, and men.

That would be.?

Communication

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