Lord Herbert wrote on Jan 27^th, 2015 at 12:16pm:




Umm having a wife is not like having a border collie.

Lord Herbert wrote on Jan 27^th, 2015 at 12:16pm:


herb , unfortunatelty nearly all mobs of horses are ruled by the lead "mare"  . usually an old scruffy mare who bosses everyone around, moves the mob on, bosses the stallions around.



its interesting to watch the lead mare when a new mum is having trouble with a fiesty young foal.(maybe bitting her teats or kicking her to get a feed of milk)

the lead mare will literally drive the foal off away from the herd. if it tries to come back she will drive it off again. Its the equivalent of standing in the "naughty corner" but much worse , as isolation from the herd is death to a prey animal.

when the foal finally "lowers its head, averts its gaze and walks meekly back " it is allowed to re enter the herd.

I'd love to train humans in the tried and tested ways of horse.
i dont think its any co incedence that many damaged and abused people find solace with dogs and horses

aquascoot wrote on Jan 27^th, 2015 at 12:45pm:


This has happened a lot over the years in my bedroom.

freediver wrote on Jan 27^th, 2015 at 12:45pm:


As a child of maybe 8 or so, I refused to eat my vegies, especially the green ones. I'd eat the meat and potatoes but leave the rest and so I didn't get dessert.  My Mother used to put the vegies in a dish, pop that into the fridge and serve them to me, cold, for breakfast.  Naturally, I refused to eat them then, as well.  However, I knew for sure that Mother would not send me off to school without a packed lunch ... so I ate that on the way to school as I wasn't stupid enough to starve myself.  Eventually, Mother gave up this habit of trying to teach me to eat my vegies and stopped putting the greens on my plate. It wasn't until many years later that I would learn to love vegies, greens especially but I still cannot stand pumpkin or cauliflower! I've never been one for dessert either. It's funny the things you remember about being a kid. 

freediver wrote on Jan 27^th, 2015 at 12:45pm:


Nope,  and the good thing is if you ALWAYS follow through and outlast the child, the behaviour , instead of escalating in the hope of the parent "giving in" actually does the reverse.  Each tantrum will last a shorter and shorter time as the child "basicly gives up because it knows it cant win"

When you first catch a badly trained horse in a big paddock, you might have to follow it around for 2 or 3 hours.  just keep walking, no emotion, dont let it settle and eat,  eventually it stops and you walk up AND YOUVE GOT IT.(it stops because its lazy and wants to eat)

next time , you do it might take 30 minutes.
next time 5 minutes.
next time, he'll probably walk over to you.

Now the next 20,000 times are a piece of cake.

Contrast that to the stupid "suck up to them method" where you wave a carrot around.
you'll have to go through 20,000 carrots, the horse wont think youre giving it a carrot as an act of love, he'll think he's taking the carrot as an act of dominance.

parents, teachers....just plain dumb, letting kids get the upper hand. they let them get the upper hand, becuase the parent or teacher is tired and lacks the will.   NEVER EVER EVER let an underling have a win over you. Zero tolerance. period 

Lord Herbert wrote on Jan 27^th, 2015 at 1:08pm:




well next time she puts on the tanny in the shops....you ignore her....tell her she wont run in next weeks Derby if she keeps that up..

Lord Herbert wrote on Jan 27^th, 2015 at 6:57pm:



Pleasant dreams, Aunt Herbie.