It always starts in the home grappler- if kids see violence demonstrated to them or are spoilt to rotten they take that as a cue 1- if you see it you will copy it -

2 If you are spoiled to death you think you are exempt  from normal rules in life where you are taught respect and boundaries-and do as you please.

Teaching about bullying in schools and at home is vital as cods said- because kids from abusive homes will never be taught right from wrong.

I have an abusive background and Im sure many of you got that by now- I know the why and the wherefores- as a mother myself I chose to raise my kids alone for this very reason- my father was violent and our house was always chaotic- I left home quite early and really never went back even though as a very young woman I was worried sick about my mother, that she would die one day (she suffered some horrific injuries). I have beaten my 6ft 4 father with peices of wood because he was trying to break my mothers arm from her socket, he was so enraged he didnt know what he was doing-then I turned and ran. I called the police, they never came.

My father was not a bad man but as a child he looked pretty bad. Now I realisie he was also a victim of abuse as a child. And it left him with deep hurt- I never realised this until years later , I feel so bad for my dad now, but its too late to make it right, he died. So did my mother. I went on to partener with abusive men, because when you come from a violent home you kind of normalise it and yo dont see a potentially violent man as the enemy, he is really only like your father isnt he..? this kind of man is the only an you know- that is why woen go into abusive relationships-  if you come from a healthy home you would never end up with an abusive man.

The father of my children was also abusive and it went on for a while- but at an early age and especially when my son was born I realised if I dont leave the cycle of violence would continue- and I have raised my kids alone , they are out of home now and I am so proud of them..I have a loving and non violent partner now and even nowit seems to good to be true- I keep thinking he will turn one day, but so far he hasnt and I am only just believeing that at last I have found someone who isnt abusive and will never raise a hand to me..

That is an act of violence in itself - why then complain when it generates a response?

The hurt alone of the 'abandoned father' is excruciating - I know, and when you add to that the devastation of the life he has struggled to build - why would you consider that a response is in any way abnormal, especially that over 85% of relationships are broken up by the woman involved, and primarily for not valid reason other than 'she doesn't feel validated any more' as a wife and mother.

Aussie wrote on Oct 2^nd, 2015 at 9:06pm:



yes

Aussie wrote on Oct 2^nd, 2015 at 9:17pm:


dictionary? I thought we were discussing people opinions, not dictionaries ... if you want dictionary definitions, try a different address in your browser window.