cods wrote on Oct 3
rd, 2015 at 7:44am:
teach your children to respect each other.. even brother to brother its all about respect...
if people tried to live with their partner instead of expecting their partner to live with them...then maybe there would be fewer fathers fighting to see their kids...
it seems to me its all about the adults.. what about the kids that see their security going from under their feet...some kids even think they are to blame for the conflict.. adults should be made accountable for what they bring kids into how often so you hear of a case where they have 4 even 5 kids
... yet the relationships been falling apart since day one.
its disgusting in this day of PLENTY too much if you ask me.. and yet this is getting worse...
it makes me wonder if adults will ever be satisfied with what they have or accept what they dont have with good humor....
It's a very complex issue, cods, and involves the 'entitlement mentality' of many, who in this day and age of alleged social enlightenment, have been told from the cradle that they have virtually unmitigated rights and privileges. Then when the dream doesn't turn out, they blame others when really - no blame is to be adhered to anyone since we live in a very complex society, and not everyone can prosper mightily in it for many reasons.
Look at our current government of private school kids - what the hell would they know about running a country? But while ever this kind with their contacts, and all others like them such as Julia Gillard, get into the driver's seat, nobody else can get in - and we've seen the results from that so far, on both 'sides' of politics here.
Government here is just a new edition of 'jobs for the boys/girls' - not anything new, open, free and equal at all in any way. The Labor Party put their mates up there, the Liberal etc do the same - and so far in this century not one has shown a spark of genuine ability.
In relationships - people often have the totally wrong idea, and assume that, as you said, the relationship imposes a duty on the other party to make it what the first person wants - and when you get that from both sides, it's doomed to failure.
The other person is NOT there to fulfill your dreams for you or to fix your lacks from your childhood or whatever - they are there to work for the better good of the partnership, and quite simply, are not able to satisfy your every need or whim. People have to accept that and take a serious look at what they DO have rather than what they think they don't have in a relationship.