... wrote on Oct 1
st, 2015 at 11:18am:
And that's my point - 2 have to agree to counselling, otherwise its not on.
Him: Honey I was uhhh thinking we should uhh see a counsellor..
Her: I'll give you f***g counselling you spineless loser blah blah blah....
*3 hours pass*
Her:...blah blah blah blah
Nope. You go Honky. And keep going.
And let your partner know how it's helping you.
She may very well change her mind. You just don't know.
Having said that, I tried all this with my ex husband.
It didn't work. Why? He flatly refused.
He had another agenda though...one which ultimately cost him over a million dollars in court costs. Oh and he lost the kids too....eventually.
I did say that I am speaking from personal experience.
One other impt thing Honky....do whatever you can to make things easier for the kids (if you have any). Always think of them first before you say or do anything. And make sure you let everyone know you're doing this.
That means counselling, mediation ...anything...for the sake of any kids who are caught in the middle and are torn btwn 2 people they love so much.
Do everything in your power to avoid Family Court. Only go there as a last resort. It's an expensive process and matters/relationships tend to go from bad to worse. It's an adversarial process so things can get very hurtful and dirty in there.
That's been my experience anyway.
Lawyers in our Family Court system come away with your money and your children's inheritance.