cods wrote on Oct 4
th, 2015 at 6:43pm:
Lionel Edriess wrote on Oct 4
th, 2015 at 6:28pm:
gnes wrote Today at 5:42pm:
latest stats- 31 women killed in 15 weeks- we sure do have a problem and it highlights some pretty ugly truths about men in this country- not all men, but too freaking many.
That may be true. And domestic violence casts a long shadow over many families and their members.
But let's not be too quick to blame the men in this situation.
I'll take a risk here and describe some of my own personal experiences. A very few.
Bear in mind that I was at boarding school for most of this time. What I witnessed were holiday events.
I vividly remember coming home from the movies one night and having to pull my younger brother from his bed because Mum had set the veranda alight before retiring to bed herself. I was aged about 12.
On another visit home, I found that she'd found and fired about six .22 rounds into the family car. Dad took the rifle out of her hands after a struggle. I was about 14 then.
When I was 17, she drove to my girlfriend's mother's house and threatened the mother with violence. I was away at school at the time but the police and my father informed me.
When I was about 18 and home on another visit, I drove my father to hospital to have 7 stitches put into his scalp wound after she'd slogged him with a glass ashtray.
I had to hire security for my wedding, with the express permission of the bride's parents, because my mother was invited - and to ignore her was inviting trouble.
My father was, and still is, a big man. He could have punched a hole straight through his wife's face.
He didn't
Lionel thats a terrible childhood I feel for you so much its hard to blank it out...my granddaughter and her mother and her half sister lived with an alcoholic..and he set fire to their home he ran around the complete outside lighting it as he went...they got out in time and the fire brigade came and saved the house..but it did untold damage to those kids...and still she took him back... for while...can you explain why your dad put up with that??...I am so sorry to here it was your mum who was hell bent on destroying everything....I have to say she sounds like it was more than anger management problems...my dad died at 89 and never changed one bit miserable as sin...so I know what a rotten childhood is like..
She took him back? There's the answer!
Love is more than blind, cods. Sometimes it's destructive. Plays and stories have been enacted and written about the same subject for ages.
I know that it played a part in my own marriage breakdown. My wife had issues of her own that were never fully communicated.
My only regret is the impact it may have/has had on my kids.
Is it scars from my own experience, or an inability to successfully communicate that might be the problem?
All I'm saying is that the DV problem is probably older than the institute of marriage.
I think it's today's view on relationships- planned obsolescence. You don't work on fixing things these days - it's cheaper and easier to replace them.
My grandmother once was considered spoiled because her husband dug a half-mile trench so she could have a tap in the kitchen.
The life I knew as a kid disappeared when we started locking our cars and fearing for our children.
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