... wrote on Oct 1
st, 2015 at 3:06pm:
The threat of violence is far more powerful than actual violence. But in a society that enforces the mantra "violence is NEVER acceptable" that threat has no power. It's as though one side has been disarmed.
But compounding this, is that the threat of unimaginable violence is now in her hands. If he should lose his temper for a second and lash out, no matter the extent of provocation, she can hurt him more than he could ever hurt her, via the strong arm of the state. A slap on the cheek stings for a few seconds, but a slap from the state can destroy your whole life.
While he's been disarmed, she has nuclear weapons. How can that ever work?
This is exactly the problem I'm getting at, making excuses for violence and threats. This is what I mean when I say domestic violence (like other violence) exists because there are elements of society that think it's acceptable. As long as this attitude remains, so too shall the problem of violence being prevalent in society.
Making threats teaches children that it's a reasonable way to solve your problems (trying bully others into submission), which in turn perpetuates the cycle.
This applies to everyone - hitting, screaming and threats are not how adults should carry on relationships. There is nothing on this earth that could compel me to remain in a broken relationship, I have seen them and what they do, and having children in one is far worse for them than being in a single-parent family.