mothra wrote on Oct 13
th, 2015 at 12:02pm:
aquascoot wrote on Oct 13
th, 2015 at 11:58am:
lets be real now.
The number one important thing for happiness and success in life is to develop a good emotional and social intelligence.
This is even more important than IQ.
How does one develop social intelligence?
How does one learn to play the piano?
Ride a bike?
Play chess?
Play basketball?
Pick up chicks?
years and years of practice and exposure and learning from your mistakes and developing muscle memory and prefecting your "art"
now, how can a child learn to "socialise", "read non verbal cues". "learn body language" "learn social skills"
IF they are not exposed to socialisation over and over and over and as much as possible in as many different settings as possible.
common sense says that to be schooled by your mum as opposed to being schooled by 1000 other humans you "socialise' with, just has to be an inferior learning process .
What's to say home schooled children can't have plenty of socialisation?
scarcity of opportunity.
if you want to learn french, which option is better.
being thrown into a school of 1000 french speakers or having mummy give you a lesson every day.
if you want to learn "how to socialise" which by definition would be "how to relate to other human beings" , then the more exposure you can get the better. The more immersed you can become in the socialisation the better.
i think the home schooling movement even recognise this and arrange get togethers with other home schooled kids, which sort of shows they acknowledge that socialisation is very important.
so if its very important, why would you not want to get as much of it as possible.
i actually do believe schools can be too big.
you want a tight group of 10 friends, a peer group of 30 and close aquaintences with 100.
this is the basis of the roman army, even of our modern army
section of 10 (best buddies)
platoon of 30
company og 100.
regiment of 600.
that seems about right.
once you go above 600 (and my local public high school has 2,500 you get into a framework of people not caring about their schoolmates because theyve never met them ..and socialised with them)
i also consider the ideal business size should not exceed about 600 for the same reason and the same is true of big public hospitals and bureacracies.
so 10 best mates
30 good friends and 100 friends and 600 you know
you cant fight mother nature