Dnarever wrote on Nov 18
th, 2015 at 8:32pm:
aquascoot wrote on Nov 18
th, 2015 at 5:49pm:
Kytro wrote on Nov 18
th, 2015 at 4:28pm:
aquascoot wrote on Nov 18
th, 2015 at 1:41pm:
Kyrto when i look at those guys who are losing their jobs after years of work i see people who are scared and look tired.
They basicly have been sold a lemon.
Its actually a very similar look to what i see when i look at a guy who is getting divorced after a long marriage.
society sells these guys a path which is just not realistic.
if you are a good worker or a good husband, thats simply no gaurantee that life is going to work out well for you. its a myth of the group think of society.
every day in the workplace, every day in your relationships, you gotta bring your A game, you got to be growing, you got to be adapting, you got to be improving.
its sad when they say "ive worked here for 30 years (doing the same job) and how am i going to get another job......
i was a good husband for 30 years and how am i going to get another wife.
In all things, work or relationships, DO NOT ASK what am i getting out of this (be that pay or sex and meals and compnaionship) ask WHAT AM I BECOMING.
most people are beaten down, you have to keep growing, you have to WORK HARDER ON YOURSELF THEN YOU WOULD EVER WORK ON YOUR JOB.
this story is going to become worse and worse and worse as the security (in work and relationships) get worse.
You know your average small business person is always scared and always tired but he learns to live with that, embrace it and uses it as a spur to personal improvement.
If you think you can just learn a job at a steel company and then go into Durrrrrrr mode for 40 years, i'm sorry, society has sold you a pup.
Welcome to the real world, now pick yourself up and learn the lessons you should have been learning every moment of every day for the last 40 years
Effectively the days of doing the same job at the same place for life are mostly over.
we are in furious agreement
Yes it is a shame though.
yes and no,
like i said, the thing the small business person has always had to do is to be happy to live with ambiguity.
to learn to live with a degree of fear.
we all will need to do that now.
the modern worker is really a small business person working for "myself pty ltd"
he needs to have that mindset. he needs to market himself (positive psychology, good smile, firm handshake, well groomed, punctual) and he will need to improve himself (courses, studying, innovating, continuous education, learning IT).
so there is more work, indeed.
but the marriage analogy is valid.
you dont get married and just go....righto , set for life, put in my hours, get fat, couch time, chode mode, do as little as possible and try to get away from the partner...not if you want a good marriage.
same goes for a job...you will get more out of it if you improve yourself and you also make yourself indespensible and more likely to be kept on (ie you wont have to go thru as many painful relationship break ups/sackings)