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It's complicated alright...and unbalanced.
Last weekend my son got arrested and put on, as Christian Porter, Minister for Social Services puts it, a 72 hour "cooling off" DVO issued by coppers...the kind that shoot first and ask questions later.
Backstory, son and his wife having marital issues and have a nine month old son. Wife invited man hating friend over for a drink, which ends up being three bottles of wine (my son is a teetotaler of all drugs so is sober for the event). Wife decides with coercion by friend it's the day to leave the relationship. Wife packs bag, grabs baby and attempts to leave house and get in drunk friends car, who incidentally has a three year old daughter with her. The plan is to drive 50km of city freeway and suburbs. Son tries to take baby and keep him safe, gets beaten with frying pan, punched and kicked by both women, and a generous loss of skin due to sharp nails. He loses that battle...next battle is to get baby out of drunk friends arms as she attempts to put him in back seat of car (her own 3yr old is strapped in ready for the drive). She starts screaming that she is being assaulted, neighbors call cops. Cops take wife and friends's side of story that my son was trying to kidnap the baby and in doing so assaulted the two women. Son gets arrested and the rest is history.
How can a man looking out for the welfare of his son, who his drunk wife has co care whatsoever get the raw end of the deal.
So now if this ends up in a family court case, knifey wifey has a trumped up trump DVO card.
And on this debate of % of men vs women perpetrators...my father was an ambulance officer for 30 yrs with countless calls out to DV events. He says that it's pretty much an even split as to the perps, with alcohol a correlation in 80% of cases. Not just drunk at the time either, the following day's hangover was prime-time for DV events to occur. This only accounts for violent DV, not the DV of psychological warfare. Also the biggest threat he ever faced was at a DV call out, turns out a husband had been stabbed, then out of nowhere as he's stemming the blood flow, the wife charges him with a 30cm kitchen knife and attempts to stab him in the throat...lucky for him she was drunk and he was fast.
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