Emma wrote on Nov 26
th, 2015 at 12:13am:
Lisa Jones wrote on Nov 25
th, 2015 at 11:14pm:
I can't believe what some of you guys are posting.
In actual fact, I find it quite disturbing.
You see...I've been away for a few weeks....studying and sitting for exams in the area of criminology.
I suppose I ought to say thanks .... yep thanks for being honest about how you guys feel.
But I'm outta here.
This BS is simply not worth my time or energy.
Enjoy!
I am also surprised... NOT...!!!!!!
The attitudes shown by Scooter and Co provide a perfect example of the culture that sees 2 women a week , this yr, killed by current or former partners.
( and lets not talk about the children suffering as well.)
You insinuate and even outright state that DOMESTIC VIOLENCE is a normal state of affairs.! That reports exaggerate this out of proportion. !! COMPARED TO WHAT ?
YOU guys are classic... and it is very sad. Time to wake up and realise that you cannot abuse you family with impunity any longer. ( FINGERS CROSSED)

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It is not acceptable.. blokes have got to learn they do not run the world... and they do not OWN their so-called 'loved ones'.
SHAME ON YOU for your abhorrent opinions...
SHAME ON YOU.
the typical media image of domestic violence is of a guy who comes home drunk, hunts down the woman and beats her.
i suppose "once were warriors" the kiwi movie provides this sort of scenario and i have no doubt that this is what most people envision when they hear the words "domestic violence" (and this sort of behaviour is obviously deplorable and with decreased drinking , i think on the decline)
But is that your typical case in which a DVO is issued?
Let me give you another scenario,
A woman is married to a guy and she is having an affair.
Remember women end about 75 % of relationships so this scenario is not fanciful.
they have 2 kids and a house.
She wants him out.
Every time he steps in the door she treats the guy like a doormat.
She's up in his face
"youre a worthless peice of shiiit"
why dont you just leave, you piece of shiiiit.
My new lover really does it for me.
He's so much more of a man then you,
Sleep on the couch you loser
etc,etc"
finally he is so mad he snaps, slaps her, she gets a DVO.
His life is over, loses the kids in court, shamed for the rest of his life.
Now, should guys lose control and hit a woman, of course not.
But you have to exercise very very strong emotional control when that sort of scenario arises.
The best advice is just to leave.
But for a guy being thrown out of his own home, away from his kids, maybe he has nowhere to go, he is in a very dark place emotionally....
to exercise this degree of control is tough.
The above scenario happened to a neighbour of mine, who ended up living with me and my family for a while.
You can call him a monster if you like.
You can call me a monster for defending a guy with a DVO.
I know the correct response from the feminists is that i should have put on my white ribbon and tossed him out on the street.
Sorry, but i just couldnt do it.