Agnes wrote on Aug 22
nd, 2016 at 8:59am:
aquascoot wrote on Aug 22
nd, 2016 at 8:45am:
Agnes wrote on Aug 22
nd, 2016 at 8:27am:
aquascoot wrote on Aug 22
nd, 2016 at 7:59am:
Interesting little interaction between sentana and emma there.
Sentana is vibing well and keeping it light.
this is a good start.
Now if emma was a hot girl (
), the thing to do (and the thing most guys f*ck up on) is to pull away, throw in some criticism, poke fun at her.
Why?
because most hot girls are just constantly hit on by needy men , supplicating to them...needy men who want their attention. they are numb to complements.
And a hot girl, gets her "identity " from her "hotness".
So if you have vibed for a bit , throw in a line like
"ease up on the fries there chubby"
or tell her "youre dismissed"
or just leave, walk away.
A hot girl more then any other girl lives off validation.
Remove that validation, pull the rug out from under her and she will chase.
you see, she's sick of "being chased".
they all want what they cant have and hot women can be crazy insecure.
There is a high probability that the more of an assh*ole you are, the more she will develop a need for an outcome.to get your validation.
It is the reason hot women nearly always end up with loser douche bags.
the loser douche bag understands this game and there is another advantage for the hot girl....she isnt going to attract a guy who is going to get all needy and clingy.
The paradox of the game
Sweeping generalisations Aqua..
Oh for sure,
but i think its smart to provoke the "group think" narrative.
people get into relationships and these cause them a LOT of pain.
But they dont try to think deeply about relationships.
They just accept the social narrative, which is , by the obvious failure rate, not perfect.
The hollywood rom com is a classic example.
Its just plain wrong.
And men are sold a lie as well.
get a good job, work hard, buy a good car and a good watch and "impress' the girl.
This is all logical stuff and logic does not work.
No man ever sat on a couch and presented a "logical" business plan to a woman on why they should hook up.
Women are emotional creatures.
Look at the range of emotions in a Rom Com.
Does a rom com have the story of a guy who went to law school, got a nice house, courted a girl and then they get married and go to brunch together and are in bliss? of course not. women like the drama, they like the uncertainty, will i get him ,wont i get him...
the little girl with the flower pulling petals..he loves me, he loves me not.
Any guy who doesnt understand how to man up and play a bit of push pull but still be a bit of a dominator..
chicks will lose attraction for him. its in the DNA.
this is the problem with men....they want to be the girls "girlfriend" and not a MAN. she already has girlfriends. she doesnt get turned on by her girlfriends (well i have a secret theory she does..but that a story for another day )
My boy is only 20, good looking but understands this already- he is very self assured and confident in the main- girls go up to him and give him their number lol- its a bit disconcerting for me because he is young and doesn't know what do do with the attention - quite funny- a "lone wolf type"girls have described him- he understands hot girls- I think it is inherent that he instinctively understands them, but many men don't have a clue- and understanding females is a mine field and can be intimidating-
Agnes,
women like "non needy ' men.
if they see a guy with a lot of girls giving him attention, it does 2 things.
it 'social proofs ' the guy...other chicks like him , so i feel attraction (this is obvious from the way women respond to fashion).
and if he has lots of girls, he wont be a needy clingy stalker guy and he will probably just be carefree and fun and i can have fun with this guy.
as i said, the rich get rich and the poor get poorer. and this is true of nearly everything in life and the reason why you MUST draw happiness from within.
A hot girl , will attract many men who just want her validation. they NEED it to feel good about themselves. This is value LEECHING and it is repulsive to the girl.
In fact value leeching or asking "whats in it for me" is repulsive in
realtionships
families
by employees towards their bosses
by citizens towards the government.
Being needy and concerned only with having your needs met is a repulsive way to live.
its all practice for the big show
EVERYTHING.
my daughter got a job at maccas at 15.
i said. make sure you do a kick a*ss job. smile, be super enthusiastic, be a source of energy, see yourself as the sun, spraying out good clean enthusiasm to everyone....and of course, the guys at maccas all want to date her, she gets practice to move up to the next level.
I try to teach this stuff to the loser left in the political forum.
i tell them to embrace work for the dole
to love the journey
to practice enthusiasm.
but they just hate on me.
their loss.
once you bring a non neediness and a positive passion to everything you do, people will want to be around you and help you. then you just cut those who are value leeching off you and you have your "positive ecosystem of good emotions"
Bingo, youre a winner...easier then falling off a log
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