Gordon wrote on Nov 27
th, 2017 at 3:10pm:
mothra wrote on Nov 27
th, 2017 at 3:06pm:
Gordon wrote on Nov 27
th, 2017 at 3:05pm:
mothra wrote on Nov 27
th, 2017 at 2:38pm:
Lord Herbert wrote on Nov 27
th, 2017 at 2:33pm:
Black Orchid wrote on Nov 27
th, 2017 at 2:05pm:
Well he was definitely an arrogant pig. He was my neighbour for quite a few years. I mentioned it in another thread. In person he was absolutely nothing like the affable, easy going persona he put forth on the tv.
Name dropper.
Who else are your neighbours?
Go on, you can tell me.
And thus ... the issue gets treated as gossip .. and the fact that there is a tsunami of people coming forward to disclose sexual abuse gets neatly stepped over.
I've been saying this for a long time .. and met with tremendous resistance on this forum for it .. but this is
huge. I don't know any women that have not been sexually harassed or abused. Most of us many times. Daily, weekly, monthly ... for years.
i am sexually harrassed on this very forum!
Not a word from any of you. except to call me a manhater .. or a femonazi .. when i'm speaking for men too.
This is
huge. I hope the people who are inclined to conduct themselves in that manner are beginning to see that's it's just not the done thing anymore and re-evaluate.
Moths as I said in another thread, when I started in TV production I was warned about working with him as he had a rep as being a bully and total carnt. I heard terrible stories about the way he treated people.
Why is the focus of he behavior only on the way he was sleazy towards women?
I beg your pardon. Did we forget to represent white men again?
No doubt there would be instances where he treated women terribly without the sexual overtones.
I'm talking about treating
people badly. Do you only hold people accountable when it's of a sexual nature by a man towards a woman?
Wow ... that really went over your head, yeah. I have to start a long way back with you, If you actually think about what i say, your daughter will thank me.
(please don;t report me for mentioning your daughter this time)
It's not about women and men at all. It's about behaviours. Entitlement.
Now, once you accept that, you appreciate at once that it isn't about the victim at all. You with me?
So .. we focus on the perpetrators. Yes? Of women
and men and
children.
You should have noticed by now that i tend to use gender non-specific terms. I do that to represent all variables. I'm an intersecionalist.
Now ... we have people being arseholes in positions of power. We have that power expressed professionally, by virtue of numbers, protection from repercussion, physical advantage, substances .. etc.
These are all of the things victims report their abusers as being. It seems that sexual abuse and harassment has this factor in common.
It just so happens that it tends to happen more to women than men.
Now i ask you to think about what factors may contribute to it happening more to women. And women being disinclined to come forward. Could it be the ways in which women are talked about and valued? Do you really, really think?
Anything you might want to point out to your daughter?
Anything you might want to have a look at in yourself?