And a sense of humour too.

Women want men who can take care of them.

FutureTheLeftWant wrote on Jul 18^th, 2022 at 6:08pm:


Considering that the number of women I have slept with in my lifetime quadruples the number of women you claim to have dated last year, you need not wonder about whether I get laid.

I think a bigger failure is making up stories about being married and having dated 26 people last year and still having time to deal with people that threatened your children and then threatened you. But, still have time to register as a forum member and bleat about it online.

women like a guy who is "comfortable in his own skin".
the word for this is probably "congruence"

does his thoughts , words and actions "align"?

generally a woman will give a man a "congruence test"

the usual form is she will create a bit of drama and see if a man has "good firm boundaries".

this is vitally important to a woman.
she does not want to be with a guy who is faking it.

is he a guy with a spine or is he a guy who is managing an impression and trying to present a front?

the quickest way to assess this for a woman is to play a bit of push / pull.
see if he  has shakey emotional control when she manufactures a bit of drama or see if he has emotional mastery.

she does not want a man with shakey emotions around her and especially if she is looking for a partner to have a child with.

the quickest way to screen men for congruence and weed out the fakes is to administer the congruence test.

most men will fail it

read and understand the following

A woman might be “moody” on purpose just to see how you are going to react to her. Are you going to stay confident? She’s looking to see if you are emotionally strong enough to handle pressure in a social situation.

If she is emotionally strong and confident, but the guy isn’t, then she worries that she’s going to have to take care of him and protect him. And no woman wants to do that.

They find it sexy when a guy is manly and that nothing she says or does makes him feel insecure or unsure of himself.

UnSubRocky wrote on Jul 18^th, 2022 at 6:32pm:


And again, this is why I win   Ask me about 80s pop.  I know it all.  I am 53.

Yes, a good job is alien to you, I get it.  Being poor must suck. 

TBH I could be a lot richer if I cared about money.  I really don't.  I have tons.  I give a lot away.

I am worthy of my wage because of skills, not values

FutureTheLeftWant wrote on Jul 18^th, 2022 at 6:33pm:


Anyone born between 1970 and 1995 would have a general understanding of the 1980s. Recent movies and tv shows have been referencing that decade. I have worked with people who were born after the year 2000. They tend not to know about the 1980s, unless they are dedicated to groups and movies of that era.

You obviously have the means to live. But, I doubt your life is anything more than cheap meals, a modest car, various entertainment media and a single bed in a modest home. Obviously, the death threats are so unremarkable in their capacity to shake you, that it is a surprise that you brought up the topic some time back.

I get by earning at least $1000 per fortnight. That depends on my work hours. Hopefully, I am in a full time job by next month. And no, I do not find that it "sucks". I eat, live, pay my (low) rent and utility bills. And I can do whatever I want.