Relationships: Why do women always have the last word?

If women obtain what they want from their husband or boyfriend, it is thanks to their intuition, in addition to their growing role in society. Today, seemingly, women control the couple’s dynamic.

Little by little over the years, mothers have asserted themselves, built a social life and, as a result, widened their influence within the family circle. Thus, they enforce their point of view and take the lead more frequently in decisions, whether small or big. “We are living an acceleration of the history concerning the man-woman relationship”, confirms sociologist Ronan Chastellier.

The weapon used here? Language.

Purchasing a house, choosing a car, holiday destination, or a place to live and so on are the many domains where women bloom and excel. This is a female-specific trait, according to Dr Braconnier, psychiatrist and psychoanalyst: “Women have an innate sense of reality. They are more attentive, more observant and they listen more. All these qualities enable them to reach their goal. But to achieve this, they use a very effective tool of persuasion – language.

While men are categorical, even peremptory – “when I say no, it’s no!” – women prefer to discuss and negotiate. They develop a thoughtful, concrete argument, without being dominant, making their partner think like them or, even better, make them believe that they both made the decision together” With all of these changes, what about men? Far from remaining unmoved in front of their wife’s evolution of behaviour, men have also changed, including those over 40 years of age.

Because if, previously, many identified themselves as virile and imperious, they are more and more inclined to let go and accept that their wife shares with them the home’s fate. Nevertheless, they still do not compromise on a point: “At no time, should the man feel dominated over or questioned for his virility”, specifies Alain Braconnier.

Neither a winner nor a loser:

According to Laurence Sola, psychotherapist, women know intuitively when it is the best moment to convince their partner. Unconsciously, they use their femininity and visible fragility to convert their partner: “When a couple gets along well, many decisions are taken in the intimacy of the bedroom, when they find themselves physically close and when nobody disturbs them. It is often in these privileged moments that women decide to approach the issues that mean a lot to them”.

These role changes in the relationship do not make winners or losers; rather, they generate a different balance in the relationship, currently to the advantage of women, following centuries of submission. Historically, it is well known that nothing is ever definitive. Who can say whether or not the growing influence of women will continue? In the future, will men try to take back control?” Laurence Sola doesn’t think so: “The metamorphosis of women is so important that a step backwards seems improbable.”